Realities

One of my mother’s favorite go-to sayings when I begin to talk about my holistic journey, our family’s choice to homeschool, or anything in the realm of “my hippie lifestyle”, is that “Unfortunately, that’s not reality.” with “But in the real world…..” coming in as a very close second. Which always garner an eye roll and groan (from me) because we’ve left the realm of her reality and crossed into my land of manifestation, compassion instead of judgement, and alternative solutions that are not mainstream. I know it’s about to go from a meaningful conversation on sharing my adult life with my mother to a lecture on how I have no idea what the real world is like. Mind you, I am 33 (I love that number) with two children, one of which just turned 14, home owner, married, you know… a real adult.

 

I am a real adult, who makes real adult decisions, in the real adult world. I feel like I should stomp my foot at the end of that sentence while wearing a tiara or something. I make hard decisions everyday when it comes to my children’s well being, my health, and a whole host of financial and day to day tedium that comes with being a stay-at-home mother. What my mother really means is that I’m not living in her reality and she can’t comprehend mine. Which is OK! Reality is, well, relative! It changes from person to person, determined by your social standing, financial status, religious beliefs, ect. That is the beauty of our existence on this flying space rock. Our inability to truly listen and accept, WITHOUT judgement, that others live in their own realities, that may be vastly different from our own, is the underlying ugliness that seems to seep through the love and compassion that I know most humans possess.

I am all to aware of how difficult it is to blindly accept everyone. Even as I write this I am dealing with the anger I feel towards a neighbor who causes a lot of tension and hostility between our houses, seemingly on purpose. I know (from talking to her son) that she is a bitter, angry, unhappy woman. It is understandable, though far from civil, that she uses me as a scapegoat to unload that unhappiness. I know some of her backstory and in ways, she and I are similar. Where we differ, is that I chose to accept and deal with my health circumstances in a positive way, learning from my illness and embracing my

 

body’s limitation by finding things I am capable of, rather than wallowing in self pity and stewing in anger.

Majority of dealing with our realities is how we frame them in our minds. When you wake up dreading a day (i.e. Poor Monday gets such a bad wrap) chances are, your day is going to spiral from the moment that alarm goes off! I Love Mondays! Let me say that again, I LOVE MONDAYS!

Truly. It’s a whole new week, filled with possibility. I enjoyed them when I worked too. You know, I’ve never really had a bad Monday. I’ve had bad days, but not because it has anything to do with the day’s name. Try it, the next time there is something you assume will go badly, like poor Monday, reframe your opinion. Think instead on how great your day will go because you expect it to. At first this will be hard, at least it is for me. It’s far easier to be a skeptic than optimistic when life has “taught” you to expect the worst. Use the Fake It Until You Make It approach. Eventually, it will get easier and life will start to surprise you. I am a firm believer in your thoughts create and attract your reality. Why not make it the best life possible?

Manifesting Your Reality will be a series we offer because honestly, beginning this journey with zero guidance can be very difficult at times. Mainly because we tend to make things more difficult than they need to be.

If you are a journaler…which everyone should be, in my humble opinion, here’s an exercise for you. Think of something in your day to day life that you are dreading, like Mondays, or work, or having to struggle to find the money to pay this month’s bills. Instead of allowing that panic, anger, or fear being to swallow you grab your pen and paper, computer, phone, where ever you keep your written thoughts, and write out how you wish “IT” would go. Write down what you’ll feel, how the day or event will go for you, and how amazing you’ll feel once it is over. Allow yourself to really FEEL it, write down the emotions you will experience. Write it all out! Then let the fear you felt before go. Release your best hopes to The Universe (Spirit, your God, Gods, or Goddess, read that however it resonates with you) and let it do the rest. True, things may not play out the way you expect. You may be surprised at how little changes The Universe puts in your day affects the overall ease of the day, event, or whatever the case my be. Just be prepared to jump at the chance that The Universe is supplying you with.

I look forward to writing for you again, Star Shines!

Dayna (co-founder)